Yesterday, when I quoted Lorrie Hearts about a hospital’s decision to stop making free formula available to new moms in an effort to be “baby-friendly”, I got a lot of supportive comments and questions through Tumblr. (Thanks, y’all!) I also got a lot of hate and misrepresentation directed at me through Twitter. (Does this decide the never-ending social media battle in my head? Maybe!)
When I wrote about breastfeeding and formula feeding for my column in The Daily earlier this year, what I stressed was that too many moms who choose (or must) formula feed are outright shamed for it:
But why a woman doesn’t nurse is beside the point. Whether she’s unable to or simply chooses not to, the guilt has got to go.
We should reserve our motherly disdain for systemic issues that make parenting harder — workplace inequities and the maternal wage gap, the lack of paid maternity leave and affordable child-care options — not other women’s personal decisions about how to feed their babies.
So it’s all the more infuriating that the responses directed at me (shrouded in patronizing rhetoric about wanting to “educate”) have been absolutely rife with shaming.
FeministBreeder, a blogger and lactivist whose Twitter description touts herself as a “rocker chick turned natural mom” (I’m dying to know what kind of mother isn’t a “natural” one), started in by suggesting my post was “harmful to women’s health,” that I hadn’t researched the issue, and that I was “siding with the formula marketing industry” who take advantage of “vulnerable” women.
Her tweets actually embody the main issues I have with those who shame formula-feeding mothers: the condescending attitude that women who formula feed are somehow stupid or have been duped, the assumption that anyone who formula feeds or supports women who do so isn’t educated on the issue, and, of course, the shaming inherent in suggesting that formula hurt women (and babies). The other issue, which I’ll get into in a bit, is the mind-boggling classism I’ve seen bandied about.
Copy after Robert Campin, La Virgen de la Leche
Holy Neck-Boob, Batman!
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Did you know that back then, they used glass globes as breast implants and perfectly spherical boobs were ideal. Like two little globes on your chest. Fucking weird.
Noooo, not quite. The first breast augmentation was in 1895, performed by Vincenz Czerny to even out the chest of a woman who had had a tumor removed. Yes, glass balls were sometimes used as implants, but it was long after the Renaissance.
Quarter Till Five.
Gave my little workspace a small facelift this weekend. Funny how the smallest details make the world of difference!
Daily chart: who has the most plastic surgery? One in five women in Seoul has gone under the knife. There are seven times more buttock operations in Brazil than the top-25 country average, and five times more vaginal rejuvenations. In Greece, penis enlargements are performed ten times more often than the average.
Ruth, our prop and window dresser extraordinaire,
shares a look at our new installation by artist Christopher BettigRecently our Rockefeller Center store went though a much-needed face-lift. We were faced with what to do with the massive two-story-high wall that previously had a pair of…